Today’s post is aimed mostly at writers, but I think every person on this planet can benefit from it. I’m talking about why we need to have selective hearing in order to succeed.
The publishing industry is filled with a lot of criticism. It’s there when you are learning craft. It’s there when you’re seeking representation or trying to land a publishing contract. It’s even there when you are a NYT bestselling author. Criticism is something you can never be free of. In many cases it’s a good thing. Aspiring authors need constructive criticism to improve their craft. It’s something they need to listen to if they want to reach their ultimate goal. But it can be so easy to get caught up in the negative aspect of it all. To doubt yourself. To get discouraged. This is why writers need to have ultimate belief in themselves, to know they will meet their goal, no matter how long it takes or how hard it sometimes feels. They need to practice selective hearing.
When you are receiving critiques or reading reviews, take those parts that work for you—that you truly feel will make you a better writer—and dismiss the rest as utter nonsense. Know that you have stories to tell, and trust that there are others in the world who will want to hear them. Because no one else will ever believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself.